People & places have an influence on you deeper than you think. Proof: they bring a situation and then a déjà vu; sometimes the other way around. An actual situation with you as actor and observer may seem to be déjà vu, and after that eerie paused-long second, you realize… voila! I was the director too!
Each new interaction evokes a sentiment, idea or simply put a reaction. So one day you decide conveniently what ideas, action, reaction you want to constantly live in and with great hope you start to choose judiciously the people you want to be with, place you want to be in and call it ‘your wonderful world’ (you may choose to be deliberate and give it a constitution, call it a democratic, secular, socialist, republic, have a currency of love, or simply just put a powerful basic tried and tested principle in practice: “your gene pool shall determine the course of this world from now!”). Not the entire point here.
You are toiling to effectively shaping your world that is functional, conducive to your need of comfort and allows you to conserve & nurture your identity: you call it ‘home’. However to continue to stay on course, you know your world should not be challenged too much, because you feel threatened, insecure. After all you created it to “live happily ever after” & some moron challenging you is hurting your fundamental idea of what you think is human purpose, society’s role and other big-macro instruments (that are failing to help for whom they are designed). In short, you don’t want anyone stirring the value system. You don’t want a change. (scene ended)
My reconciliation brings me to understand that not all stories start with “once upon a time” and end with “..and they lived happily ever after”. Though they may & can. The Boatcar guy did answer: …“ I may not understand, I may not even necessarily agree to it, it, but I accept it and sort’a just glide along.” In a non-linear world as mine, where circles are more important than squares, I came along this piece explaining the macro cultural and mindset shifts I am living today.
A pragmatic comparison of ‘rough mindset’ of world I belonged to and the world I went to, borrowed from the Patrimonio Hoy research:
Cultural Values coming into conflict:
Historical, Status Culture
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Modern, Economic transactional culture
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Personal identity and reputation based on place in social network given at birth and confirmed by patrons
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Personal identity and reputation built by responsible series of effective transactions.
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Fate or God determines outcomes: Therefore, planning is arrogant, particularly for more than a year.
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Planning and regular execution determine outcomes: Therefore, believing in an individual fate is foolish.
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Family and community festivals put you in touch with meaning of life. Work to Live. Failure to take part produces shame.
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Working for the sake of working is a value in and of itself. Getting yourself and nuclear family ahead is the good life.
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Patrons and authorities are important. Important relations are hierarchical. And Patrons give and forgive loans.
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Negotiated or contractual relationships are important. Important relations are equal.
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Envy and distrust produce a win-lose mentality. Anyone who gets ahead has taken something that could have been shared.
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Self-motivating attitude or ‘echarle ganas’. Working at something with a good attitude can help you get ahead.
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In a world of butterfly effects, things will never reach one perfect state and stay there. You mix, match and stay curious.
However, life & living seems to just teasingly confront you with “your possibilities, make a choice, live the reality”. Again & again & again, till one gets tired and stops playing. However, it still is playing with you.
Welcome to a world of circles lead by square boxes!
End of reconciliation – part 2
